Sunday, April 4, 2010

Bedtime Battles

I know what you're thinking right now. You're thinking, "Oh, what a sweet little boy! He looks so angelic sleeping there in his crib." Well, you're right, he is an angelic little boy when he finally falls asleep. However, I do believe the devil inside him comes out when he realizes we are trying to put him to sleep for the night. Naptimes aren't really much of a problem anymore, it's NIGHTtime where we have the problem.

Usually, we try to stick to a daily routine of two naps during the day and then Trotwood goes to bed around 6:45 at night. Ever since daylight savings time, Trotwood has fought us even harder when it comes to his bedtime. It doesn't matter if we put him to sleep later than 6:45 or if he gets a longer or shorter nap during the day, he will just scream once he realizes we're trying to put him to sleep. We used to rock him to sleep in our arms every night and then lay him down in his crib. Then he started waking up once we put him in his crib. Now he won't even fall asleep in our arms when we are rocking him. Every night I keep thinking all this fuss must be because he is teething (he has 3 teeth now!) but I'm not so sure it is just him teething.

I feel like we've tried everything. Tonight, I'm going for the extinction method and neither one of us is going in his room until he falls asleep.

Ever since Trotwood was born, we've swaddled him in a blanket to put him to sleep (mainly when he was tiny to keep his little arms from flailing around when he was sleeping on his back). Now, he's just used to it and I think he recognizes that as one of the dreaded signs that we are going to try and put him to sleep.


James and Sarah Narramore said...

Good luck with this! It really is trial and error to figure out what works for each baby. MaK knows that once we brush teeth and pray that it is time for bed. If she isn't ready she normally screams til we go get her; which is normally after an hour of screaming. If she is ready for bed she is really happy and just falls asleep. The door is closed and the lights are all off. It has to be almost pitch black. Good luck!!

Laina said...

Sorry. Thats hard. I have given up with the battle. Hobbes goes to bed fairly easy when he gets tired, but if he isn't ready for bed yet I just let him stay up an hour longer and don't fight it. That usually works for us, but each baby is so different.

Hope you figure out what works soon.

Annika said...

We just went through bedtime battles with little Eve. It took 3 days of crying and now she puts herself to sleep. The extinction method is the best. It is a rough 2 or 3 days, but it is best for everyone. We were bouncing her to sleep and holding her when she woke up too soon. Before we knew it, we were somehow holding her and bouncing her all day and all night long. We were all so tired; we were desperate for a change. Now she puts herself to sleep. We swaddled her also, but now I just swaddle her body and leave her arms out. It really bothered her when she cried if she couldn't get both arms out. It just made her more upset. Maybe try wrapping him with his arms out. Good luck.

Miss Summerson said...

Laina, you're completely right, every baby is so different! Every day, I'm amazed at how much his little personality grows!

Annika, we've tried putting him to bed un-swaddled and swaddled with his arms out, our problem is that if his arms are not swaddled, he uses them to push away from you or try and climb up to your shoulder - he does anything he can with his limbs to get out of going to sleep! When it isn't so frustrating, the whole situation is very comical.

But here's an update, last night, we went through his bedtime routine and I only bounced him a little bit, then I put him in his crib and he screamed for about 40 minutes and then he was asleep. I'm hoping he'll eventually be able to put himself to sleep without screaming so much.

Natalie R. said...

40 minutes isn't bad at all, that's actually a good sign. It took about 2 hours for Samuel the first couple of nights, but within a week he would go to sleep almost right away, and without anymore screaming. It's horrible to go through, but SO worth it!!! Just stay strong and let him figure it out, it will make life so much easier!